A somatic coaching program for couples who have walked through the fire together and are ready to reclaim their relational power and erotic aliveness
You've Survived the Storm Together... But Who Are You in the Calm?
As a couple, you’ve been through it all.
Maybe it was the heartbreak of fertility struggles, pregnancy loss, or the exhausting journey to bring your child into the world.
Perhaps you’ve faced serious illness – yours, your child’s, or a beloved family member’s.
You may have weathered betrayal, infidelity, or affairs that left your trust shattered.
Or you’ve navigated major life transitions, financial stress, aging bodies, mental health struggles, or trauma that tested every fiber of your bond.
You survived. You stayed together. You walked through the fire and came out the other side.
But now, in the calm after the storm, you look at each other and wonder: Who are we when we’re not in crisis mode?
You were excellent partners in survival. But you’ve forgotten how to be partners in joy.
In Brazil, we have a saying: “Depois da tempestade vem a calmaria”
After the storm comes the calm.
And in that calm, you’ve discovered something painful: You love each other deeply, but you feel painfully disconnected.
The Lonely Togetherness
You share meals, watch TV, go to bed together, and wake up side by side. But each of you lives in your own emotional world, carrying desires and longings you can’t seem to share.
You might be experiencing:
Emotional exhaustion – Feeling defeated after enduring so much for so long
Sexual disconnection – Either no sex, or sex that feels automatic, mechanical, distant
Forgotten joy – You’ve lost the ability to feel ease, playfulness, and pleasure together
Isolated desires – Keeping your fantasies, needs, and true longings private
The roommate syndrome – Going through the motions without curiosity or passion
Drowning in your triggers – Either one or both of you are so easily triggered that breathing next to each other feels tense and risky
Devastating questions – “Did our challenges ruin us? Is our erotic connection over for good?”
The hardest part? You’re lonely… even when you’re together.
What You've Already Tried (and why it hasn't worked)
If you're anything like most couples I work with, you've tried several approaches to changing your relationship dynamics, like:
- Spicing things up
New lingerie, toys, watching porn together – but these feel like external Band-aids on a deeper wound.
- Reading books and listening to podcasts
Cognitive approaches that tell you what to do but don’t help you feel your way back to each other.
- Joining one of many best-selling authors’ expensive couple’s weekend workshops
Only to realize there’s a lot of talking about relational empowerment, but little addressing the somatic patterns keeping you stuck.
- "Just do it" mentality
Trying to think your way back to intimacy when the disconnect lives in your bodies.
Here's why these approaches fall short
- You cannot think your way out of trapped survival responses
Instead, you need a skilled guide to help you tap into those energies to discharge what needs release and promote opportunities to complete some of those stress cycles.
- Emotions are experienced through the body
They change our physiology and mobilize a lot of energy. Learning to befriend and expand your capacity to deal with both pleasurable and challenging emotional states is an embodiment process, not a cognitive one.
- The bridge back to intimacy IS somatic - not intellectual
That means we need to engage our living body in its wholeness – mind, body, energy, emotions, spirit – in the process of awakening our erotic aliveness.
Now, let me be clear here: There's Nothing Wrong With You
Your responses make complete sense. After walking through fire together, your nervous systems learned to prioritize survival over pleasure, crisis management over connection, protecting each other over exploring with each other. You’re only human, dear ones.
Your bodies are probably still holding:
Survival energy from high-intensity emotions and events
Stress responses that haven’t been fully discharged and integrated
Protective patterns that once served you but now limit your capacity for joy
While your hearts are longing for:
Deep emotional and erotic nourishment
A sense of safety to be vulnerable and playful again
Permission to desire each other fully, without shame or fear
The good news?
You haven’t lost your capacity for passionate connection.
It’s waiting to be awakened.
A somatic trauma healing and coaching program that guides couples from disconnection and survival mode to relational empowerment and erotic aliveness
What Makes This Different
No, I’m not another coach telling you how to be intimate.
This program is a deeply personalized, trauma healing and somatic coaching journey that helps you feel your way back to each other through your bodies, your breath, your nervous systems, your hearts and yes, your eroticism.
My unique approach
Somatic Foundation
We work with your soma – the living body in its wholeness – not just your minds.
Through somatic inquiry and embodiment practices, you’ll dive into the wisdom of your body, mind, emotions, energy and spirit to connect to different parts of you that need your attention, validation and love, you’ll discharge trapped survival energy and expand your capacity to relate from your wise adult and feel the full spectrum of emotions – including pleasure, joy, and desire.
Witnessing Each Other's Healing
You’ll do trauma healing and emotional processing in front of each other, creating deeper compassion and understanding of each other’s inner landscapes and building intimacy through vulnerability.
Erotic Awakening Pathway
Through guided embodiment practices, you’ll recognize each other’s bodies again – not as they were before your challenges, but as they are now, with new needs, desires, and ways of experiencing pleasure.
Trauma Healing Expertise
Any specific traumas – family of origin issues, childhood neglect or abuse, betrayal, difficult births, illness, loss – are addressed somatically in our sessions, always in service of your connection and relationship.
Dual Empowerment
You’ll develop relational empowerment, which is the capacity to be in your wise adult self and navigate your relationship with all its challenges and delights; and erotic empowerment, the capacity for ecstasy, bliss, and sustained erotic aliveness.
The Transformation: From Survival Partners to Thriving Lovers
By the end of our work together, you'll have:
Resilient Hearts
- Deep understanding
Of each other’s inner worlds, maladaptive strategies, winning reframing, needs, desires, and fantasies
- Expanded emotional capacity
Being able to feel, express, and process the full range of emotions together.
- Practical communication tools
For when you feel disconnected or triggered (because yes, life will still happen and throw you curve balls every now and then).
- Embodied safety in your relationship
Experiencing your partnership as a secure place to land and explore from.
Awakened Bodies
- Somatic communication skills
Your bodies will know how to speak to each other with attunement and loving presence.
- Expanded erotic repertoire
New and exciting ways of being sensually and sexually intimate – despite of aging, illness and physical challenges.
- Rekindled desire, arousal, and pleasure
Experienced as your birthright, as a sanctuary within your relationship, a place you both cherish and protect.
- Pathway back to joy
Tools to return to connection when life gets overwhelming.
Most importantly:
You’ll remember how to be partners in sunshine, not just in storms.
What Clients Say About Working With Me
IS THIS FOR YOU?
This program is perfect for you if:
- You’ve walked through significant challenges together and survived as a couple
- You love each other but feel emotionally and/or erotically disconnected
- You’re ready to do somatic work, not just talk therapy
- You want to heal together, witnessing each other’s growth
- You’re committed to investing time, energy, and financial resources in your relationship
- You believe your erotic connection can be reclaimed and renewed
- You’re curirous about Neo Tantric and Taoist tools for sexual vitality
This may not be the right fit yet if:
- One partner is unwilling to participate
- You’re looking for quick fixes or surface-level solutions
- You’re not open to somatic, body-based approaches
- You’re hoping to return to exactly how things were “before”
- Either one or both of you are struggling with severe depression and mental health imbalances that prevent you from functioning in life and doing things like going to work, leaving bed, or interacting with loved ones.
- Either one or both of you are struggling with severe addiction like alcohol, drugs, pornography or gambling, and are not getting treatment/help elsewhere
How We'll Work Together
- The Container
Duration: Minimum 3-month intentional commitment (with option to extend)
Sessions: 2 or 3 sessions per month, 75 minutes each
Delivery: In-person in Mill Valley or online via Zoom, with optional in-person intensives
- Our Process
Our sessions include:
Qualified conversations about what’s alive in your relationship, what needs attention & healing, and new skills that need to be developed
Somatic embodiment experiences and relational trauma integration processes
Reflection and integration of insights and new awareness
Skill building tools and techniques to improve communication and connection
Optional home practices tailored to your specific needs and desires
- Investment
We meet twice or three times a month
Price ranges from USD 780 (2 monthly sessions) to USD 1170 (3 monthly sessions) per month
Sessions are 75 minutes each
Included in price:
Sessions
Post-session recap email
Optional home practices for integration support
Renew as needed for continued growth
In-Person Somatic Intensives (Optional)
For couples in the San Francisco Bay Area or willing to travel to Mill Valley:
1-day mini-retreat experience (3 or 4 hours)
2-day intensive (3 or 4 hours each day)
This experience is tailored to your needs and is a great add-on to our ongoing work, or as a stand alone opportunity to refresh your relationship or receive laser-focused support in one issue you’re both challenged by.
In these intensives, I offer deep somatic work in person for accelerated healing and connection, and may or may not include tools for erotic connection, it depends on your unique needs at the moment.
Prices and logistics discussed upon e-mail request: [email protected]
Your Next Step
If you’re reading this and thinking, “This is exactly what we need,” I invite you to take the first step.
Apply for an Initial Conversation with me
Fill out our brief application so I can understand what you’re looking for. Then we’ll schedule a free 30-minute Discovery Call to explore:
- Whether what you’re seeking aligns with what I offer
- If this is the right timing for our work together
- Whether we feel like a good energetic fit (because in somatic work, the vibe matters)
This call is a pressure-free exploration. No obligation, just curiosity about whether we’re meant to walk this path together.
I’m Marina Nabão, a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, a VITA Sex, Love & Relationships Coach, and senior teacher specializing in trauma-informed erotic intimacy and relational work.
Originally from Brazil and now based in Mill Valley, California, I bring warmth, cultural wisdom, and deep somatic training to couples ready to reclaim their relational power and erotic aliveness.
My approach integrates Somatic Experiencing®, Terry Real’s Relational Life Couple’s Coaching, Parts Work, Sexual Tao and Neo Tantra traditions, Energy Healing, and Embodied Spirituality.
I understand that healing happens in relationship – not in isolation – and that our erotic energy is both medicine and spiritual practice.
I’ve walked through my own fires in my marriage, including our daughter’s leukemia diagnosis and treatment, fertility struggles and IUI treatments, pregnancy loss, the challenges of migration, an interracial and intercultural marriage, and pervasive racial trauma. I know what it means to love someone through the unimaginable and find your way back to joy together.
The Time is Now
You’ve been strong enough to survive the storms. Now it’s time to learn how to dance in the sunshine.
Your relationship has been tested and proven resilient. Your hearts have weathered the fire and emerged still beating for each other.
Now let's heal what needs healing, empower your relational skills and awaken your bodies to the pleasure, play, and passionate connection that's waiting for you.
I strongly believe that you deserve more than just surviving together. You deserve relational joy.
Questions? Email me at [email protected]
